Ever hear someone say that most of us are in therapy because of the people in our lives that aren’t in therapy…
I’ll take that a step further…
We’re here because we don’t want to be that person to others.
Story time…
A couple of months ago I had someone reach out to me to ask me some very personal questions…
My responses weren’t to her liking and she went low. She went after my mental health & attacked my very personal decision to work hard on myself through therapy (over the past 2 1/2 years). Name calling & saying things like “Glad you are in counseling because clearly you need it…”
Pretty judgmental and uneducated comments.
And the worst part, she is the business development manager for a “mental toughness” business and podcast where they focus their offerings, material and interviews around mental health.
Ignorant? Absolutely.
Irresponsible? I think so.
Uneducated about therapy in her own life? Yes.
Unhinged? perhaps.
Angry about her current life cirsumstance she finds herself in and drowning in her own need to seek therapy & support? 100% yes.
And, because I have done my work and continue to, I have no desire to share specifics or names about which podcast it is & it’s “business development team” members.
A great reminder to be discerning about what you feed yourself through podcasts, books, all the things you let into that precious space between your ears.
Know your source.
And above all else (a reminder from a post I shared soon after the interaction)…
don’t ever let someone weaponize your therapy & mental health.
especially if you were vulnerable and transparent enough with them to share.
maybe you just want to feel better. maybe there is something that is no longer serving you that you would like to move on from.
whatever the reason, it is yours and yours alone to determine your why.
therapy is a space for self-inquiry, self-reflection, self-regulation and a space to always find a way to do better. to take accountability.
in your own life and in the lives of others.
co-regulation.
don’t let someone ever take that opportunity of growth away from you by mocking the work you’re doing or your deep dive for more joy in your life.
Just imagine how much kinder this world would be if people took a frequent inventory (aka, therapy) of themselves…
*most likely some of the harm we seek to find healing from is theirs…
I see you.
Keep moving forward.
They don’t boo nobodies. 😉
And remember…
Your light is gonna irritate a lot of unhealed people.
